Introduction
The Tower is the moment the illusion breaks. It can be a shock, a sudden ending, a truth that can’t be unseen, or a structure that collapses because it was never stable in the first place.
This card is often feared — and for a reason. But it also carries a strange mercy: it ends what was unsustainable, so you don’t spend years bleeding slowly.
How these exercises work
You’ll receive fictional client emails — the kind of messages professional readers actually get. For each email, we’ll assume you draw The Tower as your starting point. Your task is to write a reply like a professional reader: honest, compassionate, clear.
Then you can open the spoiler to read my sample answer. It’s not the right answer — it’s a reference point for tone, structure, and how to deliver difficult truth without cruelty.
And as always: you’re free to reuse these emails whenever you want and pull your own one card, three cards, or a full spread.
Exercise 1
📧 Fictional client email — “He left yesterday. Will he come back?”
Hi,
My boyfriend broke up with me yesterday out of nowhere. I feel like I can’t breathe. I keep replaying everything and I don’t understand how this happened so fast.
Please tell me if he’s coming back. I just need to know if there’s hope.
— M
🎯 Your Exercise (set card for comparison): You draw The Tower.
Dear M,
Thank you for trusting me with this, especially so close to the moment it happened. A breakup that comes out of nowhere doesn’t just hurt — it shocks the nervous system. It can feel unreal, like your world tipped sideways overnight. I’m truly sorry you’re going through that.
The card that came forward is The Tower. And I want to handle this gently, but honestly: this card does not describe a temporary wobble or a simple misunderstanding. The Tower is the kind of ending that happens because something can not continue in the same form. It often arrives suddenly — not because it was “random,” but because the foundation was already cracked, even if you didn’t see it yet.
So if what you’re asking is, “Is he coming back soon in a way that restores what you had?” — The Tower says no. Not in the way your heart is longing for right now.
But please hear the deeper message: The Tower is not here to punish you. It’s here to stop you from living in a reality that was not truly safe for your heart. When someone can exit your life overnight, without care, without clarity, without steadiness — that is information. And it’s information you deserve to take seriously.
Right now, your job isn’t to chase answers from him. Your job is to stabilize you. To eat something small. To sleep when you can. To let the first wave of shock pass. In time, the Tower becomes a strange kind of protection: it clears the path for love that doesn’t leave you guessing, love that doesn’t vanish mid-sentence.
I know this is not what you wanted to hear. But I would rather offer you compassion and truth than comfort that keeps you stuck. You will get through this. The pain won’t vanish overnight — but it will shift. And one day you’ll look back and realize the Tower didn’t end your life. It ended a chapter so could open the next one.
Exercise 1.2
Now let’s imagine the reading expands and you’ve got 3 cards:
The Tower + The Star + The Eight of Cups
Dear M,
Thank you for trusting me with this — especially so soon after it happened. A breakup that lands “out of nowhere” can feel like shock to the body, not just pain in the heart. I’m truly sorry you’re going through this.
For your reading, I drew The Tower, The Star, and the Eight of Cups. These cards speak very clearly, and I want to deliver that clarity with as much care as possible.
The Tower shows a sudden rupture — not a small argument or temporary wobble, but a structure that collapses because something underneath it could not hold. This card almost always points to a truth that can’t be un-seen and a turning point that can’t be “unhappened.” It reflects exactly what you described: unexpected, destabilizing, and brutal in its timing.
Then comes The Star, and this is the part I want you to breathe into. The Star is not “false hope.” It’s real hope — the kind that arrives after the crash. It says: you will heal. You will feel light again. You will come back to yourself. But it also shifts the focus away from him returning and toward you recovering. The Star is the gentle medicine that rebuilds your faith — not necessarily in this relationship, but in life and love itself.
And the Eight of Cups is the direction forward. It’s the card of walking away even while you still have feelings — because you can feel love and still recognize that the situation cannot give you what you need. This card doesn’t judge you for grieving. It simply says: don’t stay at a closed door. Choose your peace, even if you’re choosing it with shaking hands.
So, if your question is “Will he come back and restore what you had?” — these cards say no, not in the way you’re longing for right now. And I know that stings. But I would rather offer you truth that sets you free than comfort that keeps you stuck.
What the cards do promise is this: you are not being left without hope. The Tower ends what cannot stand. The Eight of Cups helps you stop bleeding. And The Star is your future — not because it’s easy, but to let you know that you have the ability to heal.
Exercise 2
📧 Fictional client email — “Should I invest in this business idea?”
Hello,
A friend wants me to invest in a business idea. It sounds exciting and he’s very convincing. I’d have to put in most of my savings, but he says it will pay off quickly.
I don’t want to miss a big opportunity… but I’m also scared of losing my money.
Should I do it?
— L
🎯 Your Exercise (set card for comparison): You draw The Tower.
Dear L,
Thank you for your question — and I’m glad you asked before committing. That alone shows wisdom.
The card that appears here is The Tower, and in investment questions it’s one of the clearest red flags the tarot can give. The Tower points to a shaky foundation: missing information, overconfidence, “it’ll be fine” energy, or a structure that looks impressive until you test it — and then it fails fast.
So I need to say this plainly: I would not invest most (or all) of your savings into this. The Tower strongly warns of loss, sudden complications, or a situation that collapses under its own weaknesses.
That doesn’t mean your friend is an evil person. Sometimes the Tower shows that someone truly believes in their dream — but belief is not the same as a solid plan. And when it’s your savings on the line, you don’t need enthusiasm. You need proof.
If you still feel pulled toward supporting this idea, The Tower advises a safer approach:
- invest only what you can afford to lose,
- insist on clear contracts and transparent numbers,
- and take your time — pressure and urgency are Tower energy too.
Tarot can’t replace financial or legal advice, but it can protect you from ignoring your gut. And your gut brought you here for a reason. The Tower’s message is: this is not the “big opportunity” it pretends to be — at least not in the form being offered to you right now. Protect what you’ve built.
Exercise 2.2
Now imagine the spread expands to three cards:
Cards: The Tower + Seven of Swords + Four of Pentacles
Dear L,
Thank you for reaching out before you commit — that alone shows good instincts. For your question, I drew The Tower, the Seven of Swords, and the Four of Pentacles. This is a very direct spread, and it’s strongly protective.
The Tower is the core message: the foundation of this investment is unstable. In business readings, The Tower often shows a situation that looks exciting on the surface, but collapses once reality hits — because key structures weren’t solid, the plan wasn’t realistic, or risks were minimized. It’s a warning against “big promises, fast payoff” energy.
The Seven of Swords adds an important layer: there is missing information here. Something isn’t being said plainly, or the full truth isn’t on the table. This card can point to deception — but it can also be subtler: selective honesty, vague numbers, shifting explanations, or pressure to commit before you’ve asked all the questions you’d normally ask. Either way, it says: don’t hand over your savings in a situation where you don’t have full clarity.
And the Four of Pentacles is the advice — clear as day: hold onto your money. Protect what you’ve built. This card is financial self-respect. It’s the wisdom of not gambling with your stability just because someone else is confident.
So if you’re asking me whether you should invest most of your savings into this idea: the answer is no. Not because you’re “negative,” but because you’re being smart. Let this opportunity prove itself without using your security as the test. If it’s truly viable, it will still be viable with transparency, paperwork, and a level of risk that doesn’t endanger your life.
This spread is telling you to choose protection over pressure — and to trust the part of you that felt uneasy enough to ask.
Closing the Tower Exercises
The Tower teaches a hard skill: how to speak truth without cruelty. Sometimes the most compassionate thing a reader can do is not offer false hope — but offer clarity, steadiness, and a path forward.
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