Pick a Pile: No Contact – What is holding them back from reaching out?
Hello beautiful souls, and welcome to this timeless Pick a Pile reading.
This reading is meant to explore the reasons why your person is not reaching out to you. Let your intuition guide you and take as much time as you need to pick your pile. The messages are delivered in the spoilers below.
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Pile number 1, your card is Oracle X: The Bringer of Powerful Magic
The Bringer of Powerful Magic may point to weak psychic protection.
The spiritual community uses language very different, so let me bring us on the same page before we continue with the message. In my believe, every person is born with a certain amount of psychic protection. It depends on various factors, such as the strength or weakness of a person’s aura, how protected they are by ancestors, skills they achieved in past lives and of course active practice, among others. Some people are easy to influence on an energy level, while others are almost impossible to manipulate even by serious spellwork or magic.
From that perspective, the same is true for manipulation of others on an energy level. Some people naturally manipulate almost everyone around them, and are not even aware they use psychic abilities. On the other hand you have people who try everything to manifest consciously or gain power over other’s by performing spellwork, yet, their spells always remain weak, with little to no results.
Within this paradigm, the Bringer of Powerful Magic might indicate that your person is being influenced by somebody else. This does not necessarily mean that you – or your person – are cursed. This can also point to energy work that is done unconsciously or accidentally by a person that is totally unaware of doing it.
There is also a possibility that you are sending mixed or negative signals your person is picking up on. Are you sure that you want to be contacted? How would you react if they really reached out to you? Would you be happy, or does the thought scare you?
The good news is, if your person is picking up on psychic vibes easily, you can be the one who shapes those exact vibes. And, under the right circumstances, make them want to reach out.
A little magic goes a long way.
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Pile number 2, your card is the Hanged Man.
The Hanged Man may show how your person is struggling with the break-up as well. They might feel unable to act; unable to move forward and at the same time unable to go back and contact you. Maybe they are not sure how they want to proceed with their life yet, or maybe they do know, but are afraid of the consequences of their actions, and either option seems equally bad.
There is a chance they struggle with their ego or worry what people might say if they announced that the two of you are back together. Have they told friends or family about the break-up already? Did they talk ill about you? Did they post quotes on instagram or whatsapp that were basically meant to throw dirt at you? When ego is in the mix, each public announcement makes it harder to admit they’ve been wrong.
The Hanged Man is a forced pause that makes people stop and reevaluate before they finally can move forward. It is also a phase in which many people are open to opinions of others, and to changing their own. But it is also a window that won’t be open forever.
You, too, have two choices here: Do you want to try to step in as long as the window is open and shape their opinion (in your favor), or do you want to wait until they’ve made up their mind, risking that their final decision will be against pursuing a relationship with you?
Sometimes all it takes is a text that says, “Hey, I’m thinking a lot about you, and I’m so so sorry it went that way. I wished I could turn back time. I still love you. You think you can give me another chance?”
This text sounds risky. Do you know why? Because it’s extraordinarily brave. No ex-back-coach on the internet will tell you this, but people who do get their exes back usually do it like this. Period.
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Pile number 3, your card is the Moon.
The Moon shows up in readings when the most important thing you need to know now is that you don’t have the full picture yet.
You might keep spiraling the situation, thinking that you know what this relationship was, or how it unfolded, but overseeing important facts. And by making a false assumption your starting point, you keep spiraling in all the wrong directions.
Even if it is uncomfortable, try to ask yourself the following questions:
“Do I really know this person or am I in love with a fantasy that has their face attached to it?”
How much time have you spent together? Did you get the chance to observe them in social settings? Do you know their friends and their parents? Did they behave very different depending on the people who’ve been around?
“Have I been deceived?”
Did they promise you the world and act different as soon as other people were around? Did they keep their promises? Have they been secretive with their phone? Did they ever hand you the key to their apartment?
“Did I try to save them?”
Most people don’t want to be saved.
If your person has a lot of problems, especially with the law or drugs, they very likely don’t want to be saved. Maybe they enjoyed your company, they enjoyed being “normal” for a certain amount of time, but what they really want long term might be another addict who shares their lifestyle instead of opposing it.
On the other hand, if you helped them out with money, there’s a risk they outright scammed you.
“Do I even know what they really want – and if that aligns with your own wishes, dreams and needs?”
Maybe you want kids, but they want parties. Maybe you want a stable live, but they don’t want to work a regular job. Maybe you want an exclusive relationship, but they need the thrill of casual sex and deep down they know, they will always cheat, and you would always fight over it. Maybe they have never told you. Maybe being open about their honest opinions wasn’t worth it for them, so they agreed with you silently distanced themselves.
These are just three examples, the list is infinite.
People often hold back with their opinions, with showing their true self, and yes, oftentimes they enjoy being admired by another person, even if they know very well that they are not admired for their true character, but for the role they play. They may or may not know how much it hurts another person to keep that fantasy alive, to shift the responsibility for a broken relationship to the other person, and how it makes the other person question themselves and their own worth.
Sometimes, it could be so easy. If they just told you the truth, if you could see the full picture, you could agree with them that it is the best for both of you to end things here and now and move on. It’s the fact that you don’t know that keeps you trapped and spiraling and questioning yourself.
They won’t tell you at this point.
Again, they give the responsibility back in your hands.
The Moon only tells you that you haven’t seen something yet, not that you can never see it. That is an important difference here. If you choose to look, you are able to find the truth that is hiding in the dark. You don’t need the other person to tell you. And once you see it, you will be finally able to agree that this relationship ended for good.
This is not an easy process, but at the end, you will be free.
Thank you for reading! I hope your pile resonated and was helpful for you in your current situation.
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